Do You Profess Godliness?

by Betty Jackson

Recently I was asked some questions about modesty and the biblical condemnation of sensuality. I appreciated the attitude of the one seeking to do the right thing. It is for those like her that this article is written, hoping that it will appeal to honest hearts who are eager to apply the biblical directives for daily life. First, we will study the information, then provide some practical applications.

The Bible does discuss the attire of women. In 1 Timothy 2:9 we are instructed to dress modestly. The term “modest” reflects the extremes of extravagant overdressing to the point of ridiculousness, and underdressing in provocative clothing. Note this partial quote on 1 Timothy 2:9-10 from the Expositor’s Bible Commentary: 

“‘You are Christian women.... This profession you have made known to the world. It is necessary, therefore, that those externals of which the world takes cognizance should not give the lie to your profession. And how is unseemly attire, paraded at the very time of public worship, compatible with the reverence which you have professed? Reverence God by reverencing yourselves; by guarding with jealous care the dignity of those bodies with which He has endowed you....’” 

The author’s vocabulary is more formal than ours; but the point is clear, what we wear should not void our profession of being a Christian. Other commentators point out that the verses cited include one’s general deportment as well as attire. One can act immodest, even when properly clothed.

What Is Lasciviousness?

In some passages the word sensual is the same word translated elsewhere as lasciviousness. What is lasciviousness or sensuality? Since the New Testament was written in Koine Greek (the common language of that time), it may be helpful to consult some scholarly works for a clearer idea of its meaning. It has been defined as: “unbridled lust, excess, licentiousness, lasciviousness, wantonness, outrageousness, shamelessness, insolence” (Thayer: http://www.studylight.org/lexicons/greek/gwview.cgi?n=766). 

Burton Coffman comments upon the word where it is used in 2 Corinthians 12:21. It reflects “all kinds of misconduct and defiance of public decency” (James Burton Coffman, Commentary on 2 Corinthians 12:21, http://www.studylight.org/commentaries/bcc/view.cgi?bk=46&ch=12

“It is the insolence that knows no restraint, that has no sense of the decencies of things, that will dare anything that wanton caprice demands, that is careless of public opinion and its own good name so long as it gets what it wants” (William Barclay’s Daily Bible Study.

http://www.studylight.org/commentaries/dsb/view.cgi?bk=2co&ch=12).

Besides indecent public display, there is an attitude of rebellion included in the word. When women wear clothing that is indecent, after being thoroughly taught, it seems they are displaying the insolence or disregard for God and godly public opinion. It is the attitude, “I will wear whatever I please, regardless of what anyone says.”

Proverbs 7 warns the young man to be cautious of the woman “with the attire of a harlot” (vs. 10). Even in the days of Solomon, women could dress in a way as to lure men. Likely, the attire of many today is much worse than those prostitutes! Clothing does matter.

It is doubtful than many would disagree with the fact that immodesty is rampant every where, including worship services. Some believe that all women who dress immodestly are wanting men to look at them in an unholy admiring way. That is probably an overstatement, because style often dictates to women who do not think about how clothing defines them. I suppose one may not realize the effect that the female body has upon men. The spiritual woman wants to be known for her head, heart and godliness. The common fashion of the day does not profess those things. Clothes are low cut, tight, short, and see through. Cleavage is not a word commonly used in public among delicate-speaking people. Yet, cleavages are seen every day in the public arena. Modesty is paramount for the woman who claims to be a Christian (1 Timothy 2:9-10). 

How Does One Dress Modestly?

How can one apply the lessons taught in scripture about modesty? Use a mirror! Use your own conscience, guided by the Bible. If you have even a twinge of conscience about the immodesty of what you are about to wear before others, don’t wear it. Take note of other women who dress in a godly way. You may have different tastes in colors and style, and that is fine. 

There are lines that may be a matter of personal judgment. However, immodesty is when the fullness or cleavage of one’s breasts shows above the neckline, if too much chest (even the “flat” chest) is revealed, if a sweater is so tight that it reveals every outline of the body, or is of thin fabric revealing the underlying breast (check the mirror), if slacks or skirts fit like a glove — clinging to every line, or the garment is short, showing too much leg (look in a mirror!). (Cf. Exodus 28:42; Isaiah 47:1-3.) 

Also, you must remember that clothing moves when you move. Standing upright and still does not always determine modesty as you bend over or sit down. Try moving around to see how that skirt pulls up or the blouse shows your chest or backside as you bend over. (Use the mirror!) Don’t be lazy about searching for modest clothing, or ideas for how to make what you have modest. Seek help from a sister who sews if you must. 

Some may agree that one must be modest; but they compartmentalize about where to be modest. Certain events and places are considered exempt from the requirements of modesty. But immodesty in any public place is not beautiful to God. True beauty is precious to Him when we wear a meek and quiet spirit and clothing that matches our profession of godliness (1 Peter 3:3-4).

Paul dreaded a visit to the city of Corinth, “I fear that when I come again my God may humble me before you, and I may have to mourn over many of those who sinned earlier, and have not repented of the impurity, sexual immorality, and sensuality that they have practiced” (2 Corinthians 12:21). Would the good apostle mourn the sensual way so many Christians dress and act, if he visited us? It is frightening to note that the list of works of the flesh that will keep us out of heaven includes sensuality or lasciviousness. (Cf. Gal. 5:19.)  Are we risking condemnation by Jesus for what we wear?

Love does not tempt another to sin. As Rick Brumback said, “God does nothing to lure man into sin... If we are to be like our Father, we should be certain that we never tempt others to lust and sin either.”  (See James 1:13-15.) We have the responsibility to acknowledge the reality that a person could entice another to lust. We show a lack of love when we violate the biblical requirements of true modesty. (See: Matthew 5:27-28; 1 John 4:7-8.) 

Show others that you have a special dignity in contrast to the women described in 2 Timothy 3:6. Influence is powerful. A woman who demonstrates purity and modesty can bring the word of God to her mate and others by her life (1 Peter 3:1-4). Let us let our lights shine as women whose lives declare we are sisters of King Jesus (Matthew 5:15-16; Hebrews 2:11-17; Revelation 17:14).

Recommended Reading

Barclay, William. 1956. “The Letters to the Corinthians,” The Daily Bible Study Series. Philadelphia: The Westminster Press. Commentary on 2 Corinthians 12:21, p. 296.

Brumback, Rick. To Disrobe or Not to Disrobe. http://swcofc.org/to-disrobe-or-not-to-disrobe/

Harris, Lauren. 2014. Respect. http://girltogirl-cofc.blogspot.com/2014/05/respect.html

Jackson, Wayne. What Is Lasciviousness? https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/1123-what-is-lasciviousness

Jackson, Wayne. The Value of Modesty. https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/65-value-of-modesty-the

Nicoll, William R. "Commentary on 1 Timothy 2:1.” Expositor's Bible Commentary. http://www.studylight.org/commentaries/teb/view.cgi?bk=53&ch=2

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Does Your Husband Trust You?

by Betty Jackson

Does the heart of your husband trust in you? You may be thinking, “Oh, no! Not another Proverbs 31 woman lesson!” That ideal woman sometimes intimidates us; for the standards there are so high. However, I remind myself (in jest), this was a queen mother who was advising her son. What mother among us would not set some very high standards in a wife for our sons! However, these are words of inspiration. 

Maturing as a Christian is always a process. 

If you are a young woman, does your husband have a desire to be an elder, deacon, or a minister? Perhaps he is a preacher, or teacher, whose desire it is to grow in wisdom and knowledge. The maturation of a Christian woman is crucial for helping her mate become all he can be as an involved member of the body of Christ. This is not to suggest that a single man cannot become an excellent teacher of God’s word. But it was God himself who said, “It is not good that the man should be alone. I will make a help meet (suitable or answering to) for him” (Genesis 2:18).

Our study will specifically focus upon the phrase “heart of her husband.” (vs. 11) In the context of Proverbs 31, the man under consideration is a leader in the community. Notice that he is “known in the gates” (vs. 23). The city gate was the judgement seat in that cultural setting. There are gems to glean from this chapter that will enlighten us to the value of a man’s wife to his work.

Weary arms lose battles.

As Moses led the children of Israel after exiting Egypt, the fierce Amalekite army threatened the traveling Hebrews, apparently attacking the weak stragglers (Deuteronomy 25:17-19). Moses instructed Joshua to assemble his army to protect the Lord’s people. Moses, the representative of God, would hold up his rod as he stood on near-by hill in sight during the fighting. The next morning, the enemy encountered the mighty men of God. The intense battle kept on throughout the day. Moses became so tired he could not keep his arms up; when his arms dropped, Amalek prevailed. To assist the weary Moses, Hur and Aaron set Moses on a rock, and supported his arms. The enemy was destroyed (Exodus 17:6-13).

Was it Moses’ arms that won the battle? No, the Lord’s “visual aid” demonstrated that God was blessing his people through his chosen leader who was to be respected. Even the great Moses who was selected by God needed help. In point of fact: a leader cannot be “known in the gates” (i.e. respected) if his wife does not hold up his weary arms; but instead diverts his attention by self-centeredness.

How are men in biblical leadership positions? Church government was divinely installed. The Lord appointed that the church have qualified elders, deacons, preachers, and teachers. The home is designed so that males have the responsibility for leading their families. So the principles do apply in every husband-wife relationship.

There are battles to be won, even in the church environment. There are doctrinal issues, “people” issues that must be managed, personal attacks. Situations involving moral problems may require church discipline. Holy men with wisdom and calmness are requisite for these sensitive and potentially volatile situations.

How does a wife hold up her husband’s arms? 

The Lord instructs that his heart must “trust in her.” At first glance, one may believe the meaning is that he completely trusts that she will not seek another man. Certainly, that would be included. (A woman who displays her body in public may give her spouse some concern about who might be looking at his wife for opportunities with her.)

There are those who at least by implication suggest that the only reason that it is best for an elder to be married, is to prove that he can be faithful to a woman and be a good leader in the family, thus a good church leader. As for me, I find that almost insulting. Surely the only purpose for having a wife is not to prove that “she can keep her man” thus, qualifying him morally and ethically. Every Christian must seek the moral standards required by God.

Every faithful husband deserves the kind of priceless wife described in Proverbs 31. 

However it is crucial that the church leader’s mate provides the comfort and support described in Proverbs 31. Patsy Blount stated, “Too often during that slow, earthly timetable, members are criticizing the eldership to their faces and behind their backs. ... An elder’s wife then becomes the cheerleader and comforter, reminding her husband that things will turn out in God’s time.” (See Recommended Reading, Blount.)

A husband’s heart trusts in his wife because he knows she will keep confidences; she is financially responsible, living within her means, and caring for the domestic needs at home. She does not pressure him to neglect his duties to go out to make more money. Her industry, frugalness, or special talents may create opportunities for increasing their prosperity. 

His heart trusts in her because she is a woman of wisdom, strength, dignity, and a sense of humor. She is concerned about how her family appears in public. Matthew Henry comments on verse 23:

“She adds to his reputation in the world.  Her husband is known in the gates, known to have a good wife. By his wise counsels, and prudent management of affairs, it appears that he has a discreet companion in his bosom, by conversation with whom he improves himself. By his cheerful countenance and pleasant humour it appears that he has an agreeable wife at home for many that have not have their tempers strangely soured by it. Nay, by his appearing clean and neat in his dress, every thing about him decent and handsome, yet not gaudy, one may know he has a good wife at home, that takes care of his clothes.”

How does a woman become that rare jewel described by the Lord through the queen mother? 

Note that the priceless woman is wise (vs. 30). Proverbs 1:7 explains that wisdom begins with the “fear of the Lord.” As you review all the attributes this woman possesses, you can observe that her decisions are based upon sound biblical principles regarding money, industry, organization and children. Her characteristics are from the Lord: kindness, wisdom, control of speech, goodness and dignity. Without studying the word of God, one cannot truly incorporate those qualities into oneself. They are learned behaviors and talents, out of a deeply devoted heart that loves God above all else.

Does the heart of your husband trust in you? 

Do you encourage him when he is discouraged? Do you speak kindly to him? Or do you whine and complain the moment he walks in the door? Does he come home to disorder and strife, with credit card bills staring him in the face so that neither of you have any idea how to pay for all the trinkets you bought? Does he have to figure out how to buy new tires, when out of neglect there is no money put aside? Since we are to be peacemakers, surely a woman can make a difference in the home environment by her management of it.

One may say, my husband is not a Christian, so none of this applies to me. Hold on. Peter, a married elder and apostle, gave advice: “...even if any obey not the word, they may without the word be gained by the behavior of their wives; beholding your chaste behavior of their wives coupled with fear” (cf. 1 Peter 3:1-6). Treating your non-Christian mate with respect and kindness (with the other traits of Proverbs 31), even when he won’t listen to the message of the Lord through you (Learn when to be quiet!), may gain him for Christ. The non-Christian man needs the same loving treatment from you that a Christian husband needs.

The church of the Lord needs women who seek to serve. Jesus explained that those who serve will be called great (Mark 9:33-35; 10:43-44). Do you want to be great? Develop that servant’s heart, seeking to serve your husband, doing him good all the days of your life (Proverbs 31:12).

Recommended Reading

Blount, Patsy. May/June 2014. "The Elders’ Wives Club." Christian Woman Magazine. Nashville, TN: Gospel Advocate Company.

Henry, Matthew. 1706. Matthew Henry’s Complete Commentary of the Bible. http://www.studylight.org/commentaries/mhm/view.cgi?bk=19&ch=31

Jackson, Wayne. The Awesome Responsibility of Church Leadership.  https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/1378-awesome-responsibility-of-church-leadership-the

Jackson, Wayne. John Kittos Beautiful Tribute to Women. https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/1308-john-kittos-beautiful-tribute-to-woman

Has Someone You Love Turned Her Back on God?

by Jill Jackson

Perhaps the most painful wounds are the ones inflicted when a loved one walks away from the faith. Has your heart been broken because someone in your Christian family turned his back on God? Have you laid awake, heavily burdened by the realization that someone you love has in essence looked God in the face and said, "The pleasures of this life are worth more to me than you"? Have you felt the gravity of eternal consequences that await one who made this choice and shuddered for her? Have you felt the utter heartbreak that accompanies the feeling of watching someone willingly walk away from the road that leads to life? Have you felt the despair of finality when individuals such as this have passed from this life and sealed their eternity? I have such wounds, and I imagine you probably do too.

I once watched a brother in Christ, who shared my burden over certain wayward souls, become overcome with grief. He had pleaded for these individuals to turn back to the Lord, but his plea fell on deaf ears. His love so genuine, his sorrow so great, that a crowded room couldn't even suppress his pain. He could hardly speak. His heartache over his lack of success was so raw, and his tears were many. The most heart-breaking part of that moment was that these wayward souls had no appreciation for the depth of love that was felt for them. They chose to view my friend (and all others who sought to help them), as their enemy, because he opposed their sinful ways. In reality, they had no greater friend than that man who wept for their souls.

When a loved one no longer loves what's right, it hurts and brings stress to our lives. Christianity requires investing time and energy into people, but the reality is, not all investments are going to yield the desired return. Christians can lose their love for the Lord and gain a love for the world (1 John 2:15). Christians can become dull of hearing and fail to grow (Hebrews 5:11-14). Christians can completely drift away from the faith (Hebrews 2:1-4).

When my heart is heavy because I can't make someone living wrong live right, I turn to God's word for comfort. What comforts me the most is knowing I am not the only one to deal with such sorrows. Long before I knew such heartache, Samuel experienced it. Samuel told Saul to fear God and serve him faithfully. He told Saul he would pray for him and instruct him in the good and right way. He warned Saul if he lived wickedly he would be swept away. He was a true friend who cared deeply about Saul’s soul. King Saul should have treasured such a friendship, but there came a time when he quit valuing Samuel's words.

When his men became restless and fearful, Saul chose to go against God's way and offered the burnt offering instead of waiting for Samuel. He failed to follow all of God's commands, and his decision to choose wrong—when what was right had been clearly expressed—was discouraging to Samuel. King Saul's disobedience cost him his kingdom and forever altered his friendship with Samuel. Once Saul began to seek after his own desires instead of God's, Samuel understood their priorities were no longer the same. Repeated confrontation with Saul's sinful choices was spiritually, emotionally, mentally, and physically taxing to Samuel. He was burdened by Saul's negative changes and cried to the Lord all night long (1 Samuel 15:11).

Because Samuel always had Saul's spiritual interest in mind, he was never afraid to show him the error of his way. We, too, have an obligation, born of love, to look out for our Christian family and to try to steer them in the right direction when needed (Galatians 6:1). We need to pray for these individuals (1 John 5:16). We need to plead for them to repent, understanding that the longer one lives in a sinful state, the more comfortable he becomes with being removed from God and his spiritual family. Time is of the essence! One who has taken a deliberate step off the road to heaven has put her eternity in jeopardy (2 Peter 2:20-21). Our goal is to reach the wayward while their heart is yet tender.

Sadly, there are some who cannot be reached because their hearts have become hardened (Ephesians 4:18). They have rejected God and his ways. They live in sin and love its pleasures. They are unconcerned about their Christian family and the eternal consequences that await. Repentance carries no appeal. Such is the sin that leads to death (1 John 5:16).

When dealing with a wayward soul such as this, we must follow the example of Samuel. Once Saul’s choices were no longer pleasing to God, Samuel separated from him and saw him no more (1 Samuel 15:35). There can be situations in which one is so overcome with grief that priorities and obligations can become compromised. In these circumstances distance becomes a necessity.

But distance is not limited to a physical sense. Even without frequently seeing Saul, Samuel’s grief was still a weight on his heart. Lengthy sorrow can cause one to appear dissatisfied with God’s providence and gift of free will. The Lord had to give Samuel a nudge and asked, “How long will you grieve over Saul, since I have rejected him from being king over Israel” (1 Samuel 16:1)? Physical separation wasn’t enough to cap Samuel’s sorrow and get him back to the work at hand. He needed emotional distance.

Emotional distance requires accepting that we’ve done all we could reasonably do to restore the lost soul. It’s reaching a point of confident peace that God is fair and just (Ezekiel 18:25-32). Trusting this, we develop the ability to ponder a situation without being debilitated emotionally or hindered in our service to God. It requires a lot of strength to walk away and let someone sleep in the bed they’ve made. But perhaps doing so will help the one astray return to the fold (Luke 15). The lack of relationships once held dear can cause one to consider the state of his life and may result in positive changes.

Sometimes positive changes seem hopeless. Being a friend to the wayward is emotionally challenging, but we must never allow ourselves to be placed in a position where such situations become spiritually challenging. We have a duty to serve the Lord and shouldn't allow burdens like these to hinder the good works we can and should do. We must remember how Christ emphasized to his disciples that there would be people who would not receive them or listen to their words. We must follow his instructions to shake the dust from our feet and move on (Matthew 10:14). Hope in the knowledge that God’s word is powerful. Trust that he is able to do more than we could ask or imagine. And above all, have complete confidence in the fact that he is fair and just.

Recommended Reading

Jackson, Wayne. Should Weak Christians Be Disfellowshipped? https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/239-should-weak-christians-be-disfellowshipped

Jackson, Wayne. The Controversy Regarding Christian Fellowship. https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/893-controversy-regarding-christian-fellowship-the

Can Women Fulfill the Great Commission?

by Betty Jackson

Are you busy taking care of children, aged parents, budgeting, house care, etc.?  Perhaps the thought hangs over you, “I am not doing anything to reach the lost. I don’t have the time (or energy).” Guilt may nag at your heart as you consider the Lord's command to teach the lost (Mark 16:15-16; Matthew 28:18-20). 

In some communities, a minister’s wife may have fewer opportunities to meet non-Christians who are truly interested in learning the gospel. Piled on top of these scenarios are the sermons we hear concerning our obligations to teach the gospel. Perhaps guilt gives way to deeper discouragement.  Adding to discouragement are some brethren who may suggest that everyone should go into a foreign mission field or be classified as a “pewsitter.” (There must be senders for there to be “goers.”) 

When Cain’s jealousy warped into hate for his brother, God said to him, “...why has your countenance fallen? If you do well will not your countenance be lifted up?” (Genesis 4:6-7 NASB). Cain was angry and depressed. He could have fixed his frame of mind by changing his attitude, as well as his behavior. Our attitudes can be wrong, even towards ourselves. If we have the right perspective on living for God as Christian women, guilt and a discouraged countenance will fade. Stages of life have different opportunities and responsibilities.

How can a woman spread the gospel while tied down to young children or an aged parent? Foremost, we must realize that these are God-given obligations, not something that deters us from the Lord’s work. This is the Lord’s work! (1 Timothy 5:8) Jesus charged the Pharisees for neglecting to honour their parents (Mark 7:8-13).

As you deal with the tedious tasks of caring for children or aged parents, spiritual encouragement is a vital part of their care. Training your children in the way of the Lord will pay wonderful dividends as they grow in age and knowledge (Proverbs 22:6). The example of godly teaching your children is a light to others. Your well-trained children today will be the leaders in the church of tomorrow.

Remember that Jesus included “teaching them [Christians] to observe all things that he commanded.”  Aged Christian parents who are in the throes of suffering may need reminded that the Lord loves them. Surely your mind will turn to the “why” of human suffering. Conversation with them about the love of God, the suffering Savior and heaven will help them stay faithful during this most difficult time. The way you treat your aged parents is a beacon for good that others will admire, including those who are outside the body of Christ. 

Spreading the gospel is a serious obligation. Yet, not everyone is qualified by life’s circumstances to “go.” However there are ways we can support the work of the church in fulfilling the Great Commission. Being good stewards of our resources so that we can give as we have been prospered is important to the Lord’s cause. Financially supporting teaching works such as Apologetics Press and Christian Courier are other ways we can spread the gospel. Most missionaries in foreign fields need financial aide. The Philippian church was praised for its support of Paul, and credited with his apostolic work (Philippians 4:17).

Practically speaking, other methods of spreading the gospel include mailing tracts and teaching by correspondence courses (e.g. World Bible School). The friendly greeting of visitors who attend a worship service is part of that effort as well. You may not be part of the teaching program for those people, but surely it matters if they feel warmly accepted when they visit. Make it your “job” to greet visitors. If you are involved in teaching children’s and ladies’ Bible classes you are obeying our Commander in Chief!

Hospitality is crucial to planting the seeds of the gospel. Friendly visits around a dinner table may be the one thing that generates a listening ear to the Lord’s teaching. Note that supporting members of your congregation by hospitality is a part of keeping the saved saved! Include your children in visitation of the elderly (just keep them well-behaved and don’t stay too long!).

You may be able to take your children with you to the church building to help spruce up a bulletin board or classroom. A presentable and cheerful worship place is also a part of spreading the gospel. Though not directly a teaching program, a well-kept building demonstrates that the people who meet there care about a building dedicated for praising God, concern for his work, and those who visit. Older women may be unable to do much of the physical labor, but there may be ways to help younger women by babysitting or preparing food.

Making sure that your husband and family members are in their Sunday best for worship is another way to show respect for assembly to praise God. It takes some effort to launder and iron clothes (Yes, iron!). How can a slovenly person make a good impact upon visitors? The way we dress for worship is two-fold. Our clothing does not honor God by baring bosoms and short or tight clothes (Do you ever check the way your clothing fits from the back?) The immodest fashion of the day should not dictate Christian attire. The Scriptures ought to determine the way we present ourselves (Romans 12:1-2). Some women would truly agree with the need for modesty, but apparently do not know what modesty is! Likewise, slouchy and soiled clothing will not impress visitors with the importance of worship. This doesn’t mean our clothing should be expensive or flamboyant.

 While we do not practice the Old Testament Law, is there not a lesson in the garments of the priests under the Law of Moses? There were commandments for dressing with modesty and in garments specific for directing worship (Exodus 28). Note this comment from brother Campbell: “Worship is not a trivial affair. It is a sacred, serious, from-the-heart activity. The attitude that we show toward worship and during worship, is a matter of tremendous importance. ...  The very idea of coming together to worship the One that is ‘Holy, holy, holy, Lord God Almighty’ (Revelation 4:8) ought to cause us to think within ourselves that this is a special, yea, mighty special event. Dress for worship is certainly worthy of more thought and attention than dressing to attend a baseball game or throwing on clothes to go buy some paint.” (See Recommended Reading for source.)

There are communities that are so secular and so busy with every kind of activity imaginable that they do not give a moment’s thought to eternity. However, their awareness of your fidelity in attending services and being a good neighbor may open a door someday in a time of difficulty. We cannot minimize the importance of benevolence and kindness to those we meet.

Pray for the lost generically and specifically. We all know people who are not Christians, whether they are presently open to studying the Bible or not. Show kindness personally or with cards as you have opportunities. Kindness and expressions of concern to those who are weak in faith are important to helping people get to heaven.

You may never go to a foreign mission field personally, however you can “go” without leaving your community. Be encouraged by the things you are doing, instead of being discouraged by those works you cannot do personally. The work of the church involves all of us working together for the spiritual health of each member of the congregation and the spreading of the gospel near and far.

Recommended Reading

Campbell, Roger. My Savior Info. Dressing For Worship.
http://mysavior.info/article/263
Jackson, Jared. Are You An Evangelist?
https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/1252-are-you-an-evangelist
Jackson, Jason. Questions About Missions.
https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/1203-questions-about-missions
Jackson, Wayne. Dignity in Worship Leadership.
https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/1492-dignity-in-worship-leadership
Jackson, Wayne. The Value of Human Suffering. https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/52-value-of-human-suffering-the
Lyons, Eric. Human Suffering.
https://www.apologeticspress.org/apcontent.aspx?category=12&article=840

Does God Desire A Positive Self-Esteem?

 by Jill Jackson

Many women struggle with low self-esteem. This may be a problem for those women because their mental picture is cultivated from personal experiences and interactions with others. Therefore, if experiences and interactions don’t provide "proof" that they’re lovable, valuable, and acceptable, then their feelings of self sit in a low, dark place. And in that low, dark place an inner voice whispers destructive words even more cutting than negative remarks of others.

Not having healthy self-esteem creates a ripple effect of problems. Relationships often struggle. Those who suffer with low self-worth can become “needy” due to a lack of confidence or engage in “prove you love me” antics to reaffirm their worth. They may withdraw for fear of rejection. They can fear failure to the point of not even trying to excel in something  because they’re convinced they can’t do it. Thus, they may never reach their potential. Those who suffer from low self-esteem frequently have an unbalanced focus on all the negatives in life which can lead to a depressed existence.

Though there may be many competing voices, (i.e. the media, friends, spouses)the one we should hear the loudest is the Lord’s. God wants us to have a positive self-worth. Consider with me the formula for a positive self-esteem found within God’s word.

First, we should feel positive about ourselves because we were created in God's image. Genesis 1:27 reads, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Of all the things God Almighty created, we (i.e. humans) are the only things created in his image. We are the only created beings with the capacity to think, reason, glorify God, and one day spend eternity with him. On that basis, we should feel positive, recognizing we are special to him.

Second, we should feel positive about ourselves because God loves us so much that he sent his Son to die for us. John said, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life” (John 3:16). There is no greater love than that which the Father has for us. There is nothing that should make one feel more valuable than knowing God willingly sent his Son to die on our behalf—as undeserving sinners (cf. Romans 5:8).

Third, we should feel positive about ourselves because the Bible teaches that we are to love ourselves. Scripture instructs us to “love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:39). God clearly desires that we have a healthy appreciation for ourselves. This passage does not suggest that we be filled with pride, thinking more highly of ourselves than we should, or that we love ourselves to the point that we focus on our strengths and ignore our shortcomings. What is suggested is that we deal kindly with ourselves as we would our neighbors. Appreciate the good qualities within, have patience with personal shortcomings, desire and strive to grow and do better, yet recognize the reality of imperfection. Some focus on perfection to the point that they are burdened with mistakes or failures. Certainly we should never be nonchalant when it comes to sin or weaknesses, but mistakes and failures can often be turned into opportunities to become better (Philippians 3:13-14). Love yourself. Be balanced in your feelings toward self by focusing on improving as opposed to the unrealistic goal of perfection.

Fourth, we should feel positive about ourselves because we can be valuable assets to the church. We can serve others on behalf of Christ. We were created for good works (Ephesians 2:10). The beauty of the church is that everyone is important and can make a contribution. Some are natural evangelists and can turn any conversation into a spiritual teaching opportunity. Some are excellent at sending encouraging notes. Some are truly gifted at noticing visitors, making them feel at ease and welcome in a crowd of strangers. Some love teaching our young children’s Bible classes. Whatever age, whatever stage in life, there is a job any willing person can do for the cause of Christ. No act of service in the name of Christ is insignificant (Matthew10:42). The Lord values all contributions made from a heart full of love on his behalf.

Finally, we should feel positive about ourselves because God looks on the heart. The Lord told Samuel he “sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart” (1 Samuel 16:7). Though the world may feed the message that our worth is based upon our looks, the Lord says the opposite. His focus in on the heart, the inner beauty that is cultivated by a love for him. There is nothing more valuable or beautiful to the Lord than seeing a servant’s heart (John13:34, Galatians 6:2).

When it comes to building a positive self-esteem and seeing ourselves as God does, we must STARVE the negativity and FEED the positivity. Starve the mind of the views of others and the media, which are unrealistic expectations. Feed on a steady diet of the biblical principles that nurture healthy self esteem. We are special beings created in God’s image. He loved us so much he sent his son for us. He wants us to love ourselves. We can do good works for God. God sees your heart—the beautiful person you are.

Recommended Reading

Jackson, Wayne.The Bible and Self-Esteem. 

https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/42-bible-and-self-esteem-the

Jackson, Wayne.Three Views of Self.

https://www.christiancourier.com/articles/1551-three-views-of-self

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Planting Missionary Seeds

by Joy Jensen

About Joy

When I was growing up, occasionally a missionary would visit our congregation and give a presentation about mission work in a foreign land. I tried to imagine what it would be like to live in those far away places! When I was 9 or 10 years old I had to write a paragraph for a school assignment about what my life would be like in 20 years. I stated that I wanted to marry a missionary and have 3 or 4 children. Little did I know that there was a young man my age, in another congregation about an hour away, with similar ideas.

Skip forward a few years… That young man and I met and married. We both loved the Lord and wanted to serve Him together.  During our wedding ceremony, this passage was read “…whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou lodgest, I will lodge…” (Ruth 1:16).  I was willing to follow him wherever he decided to go, but in all of our pre-marriage discussions, I do not recall discussing mission work specifically. 

Several months after our wedding, George decided to attend the East Tennessee School of Preaching and Missions. During those two years, we sat at the feet of seasoned missionaries such as Bill Nicks, Rod Rutherford, and Ed Jones. Their wives also taught classes for the student wives. Those seeds of mission work, planted early in our hearts and minds so many years ago, were being watered. 

After graduation, our work for the next 19 years revolved around domestic missions; however, the thought of foreign mission work continued to germinate in our hearts. Various opportunities arose for George to make short-term trips to foreign mission points. Desiring to broaden our children’s exposure to the church outside of the U.S., he would in turn take one of them with him. In 2005, our family of six made a month-long trip to India. George and I began to have some discussions about “what ifs….” and foreign mission work.

In 2006 our family took a month-long trip to Malawi, where we worked with Ed and Lina Crookshank, another seasoned missionary couple. There was no denying it - those mission seeds planted in our childhood hearts had sprouted! After numerous family discussions (our four children were ages 13 - 17 at the time), we made the decision to move to Africa. Through what we believe to be God’s providence, we chose Tanzania, East Africa, where we arrived April 17th, 2007. We labored there for the next five years.

Are you considering foreign mission work? Thanks to those seasoned missionaries in our lives, as well as our own experiences, we’ve learned some valuable lessons along the way. Here are a few thoughts for your consideration:

Before You Decide to Go

• Take Spiritual Inventory. None of us have “arrived” spiritually. We all have growing to do. But there should be some level of spiritual maturity in place BEFORE entering the mission field.  Untold damage has been done to the Lord’s church because of sinful behavior on the part of foreign missionaries, including drinking, smoking, bribery, sexual misconduct, immodesty, etc. Wise elderships will do their best to choose spiritually mature people with honorable reputations.

• Marital and Family Stability. The mission field is no place to work out marriage difficulties or to “cure” a troubled teen. If there are family problems, they will only be magnified on the mission field. 

• Research. Proper investigation is imperative before you commit to a specific location. If at all possible, do not move your family to a place, sight unseen. That’s not always possible, but with today’s relative ease of travel, it will be money well spent.  Short-term campaigns rarely give a complete depiction of people or day-to-day life. Will you be joining other missionaries? What do you know about them? Have you spent time with them? Of course, agreement on doctrinal issues is a must, but differing views, from mission methodology to child training, can inhibit a harmonious working relationship.

Before You Go

• Cover Your Bases. Many details must be addressed when moving to a foreign country - passports, invitation letters, resident permits, travel details, medical coverage, etc. Don’t rely on one person for your information, as this could result in costly consequences. Even missionaries already in the field can inadvertently give misinformation.

• Pace Yourself. The months prior to departure are often exhausting. Frequent road trips, visits to many different and unfamiliar congregations, packing up familiar belongings - these can take a toll on your family. Take time for rest along the way. Your children are going to pick up your “vibes” about how you deal with these stresses, which are relatively minor, compared to the ones you will face once your feet hit foreign soil. Try to keep from running yourselves ragged right before you leave!

• Cook From Scratch. If you don’t already know how, learn now! Many missionary wives have learned the hard way. If you are able to make some delicious meals without boxed or processed ingredients BEFORE you go, the adjustment will come much easier. If there are picky eaters in the family, it’s time to change. Eating is a vital part of socializing with locals and refusal to eat their food will most certainly offend. 

• Educate. The more you learn about your destination, the easier your adjustment will be.  Learn about its geography and culture. If another language is spoken in your host country, begin to learn the language, and continue learning after your arrival. 

When You Arrive

• Be Flexible. Life will rarely happen as you expect it to. Your electricity may be cut off at the most inconvenient times, you might run out of water, you will hurry to arrive somewhere on time, only to sit and wait…and wait. Your patience will be tested again and again. Remember: how you react to difficult situations will affect the entire family.

• Adapt. Remember that you are a guest in another country. The locals will have different ways of doing things, including habits that seem rude or disgusting to you. The more you can accept their way (without violating the Scriptures, of course) of doing things and avoid thinking that your ways are superior, the better adjusted your family will be. 

• Don’t Be Paranoid. You cannot expect to move into a third world environment and live exactly like the local people. Reasonable precautions must be taken for your health and safety; however, neither can you be paranoid. Germaphobic missionaries are miserable missionaries!

• Keep a Sense of Humor.  Sometimes you have to laugh to keep from crying. You may be faced with bugs in your food and in your bed, unwelcomed critters in your house, and gecko droppings in the most unwanted places! You will make cultural faux pas and linguistic blunders. Learn, laugh and live. 

When You Return

• Be Aware. Reverse culture shock is very real. There are many wonderful blessings that come from living in another culture, but it’s important to realize that family members may be impacted in different ways; returning home is not always easy.  Also be aware that the foreign missionary “bug” gets in your blood! 

• Connect. Stay connected to brethren, even after you leave. Also, most people do not comprehend how much you can miss your “other home”, especially if you lived in a third world environment. Connecting with other missionaries who can relate to your experiences will help. 

When was the last time you encouraged a young person to be a missionary? You may never know the impact that a few encouraging words can have on the heart of a child! I am so thankful for the experiences I have had thus far. My life has been made richer because of it.  Most importantly, I pray that we have made an eternal impact in the lives of many. 

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Suggested Reading:

• Practical Principles of World Evangelism by Rod Rutherford (available at www.rodrutherfordbooks.com)
• http://jensenmissions.com/2011/03/05/food-for-thought-for-the-mission-minded/
• http://jensenmissions.com/2011/03/30/food-for-thought-for-the-mission-minded-part-2/
• http://jensenmissions.com/2011/05/01/food-for-thought-for-the-mission-minded-part-3/
• Third Culture Kids: Growing Up Among Worlds, by David C. Pollock and Ruth E. Van Reken (Available at Amazon.)